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In the Boat With Ben

Ben and Rachel Toalson, artists, entrepreneurs and parents of six boys, discuss the real-life struggles of raising a family, offering stories of triumph and failure, encouragement, and practical ideas for living a balanced and whole-hearted family life.

At times it can feel impossible to maintain a healthy balance between our families, our work and our passions. In this podcast Ben and Rachel offer ideas and encouragement, using their personal experience and wisdom, to explore how parents can create a more balanced, whole-hearted and meaningful family life. Topics will include emotional intelligence, managing schedules, setting healthy boundaries, establishing routines, incorporating effective discipline, finding more time to connect and much more.

Join Ben and Rachel every Thursday for a 45-minute discussion packed with valuable insights and practical wisdom for navigating the rough and wondrous seas of family life.

In the Boat With Ben is Moving to Family on Purpose

045: In the Boat With Ben is Moving to Family on Purpose

Thursday, May 19, 2016 – 23 minutes

Due to some recent and significant changes to seanwes, In the Boat With Ben will no longer be a part of the seanwes network. It was a difficult decision among many, but ultimately made the most sense for the sustainability and direction of the seanwes brand.

So Rachel and I were left with the decision: do we continue doing the podcast on our own? Do we put it on hiatus? Do we cancel it altogether?

If the title wasn’t a giveaway, we are going to continue producing a weekly podcast geared toward families. In this episode, Rachel and I get into the details behind the decision and some realizations that could lead to some exciting things in the future.

The Fine Balance Between Privileges and Responsibilities

044: The Fine Balance Between Privileges and Responsibilities

Thursday, May 12, 2016 – 1 hour, 0 minutes

One of the most difficult tasks when it comes to raising children is teaching responsibility. We eventually want our children to have autonomy and the freedom to make decisions for themselves in most situations, but the road there can be pretty frustrating.

Sometimes bestowing certain privileges is a no-brainer, while other times it may seem like your child might never be able to handle the responsibilities of being an adult.

In this episode we will share from our experiences, successes, and failures when it comes to granting privileges and teaching responsibility. We will share a valuable focal point that will help you as you try to hold a balance between privileges and responsibility.

Improving Self-Awareness and Relieving Stress for Your Kids

043: Improving Self-Awareness and Relieving Stress for Your Kids

Thursday, April 28, 2016 – 55 minutes

Even as adults, it’s difficult sometimes to pinpoint where our stress is coming from. Most, or maybe just some of the time, we’re at least capable of using healthy outlets to express our feelings and relieve stress.

Our kids face different, but significant, stresses daily. Their disadvantage comes when they lack the tools and the practice to identify what is causing their stress and to know how to release that stress.

In this episode we will share approaches you can take with your kids to help them identify the source of their stress and techniques you can use to teach them how to release their stress. Bonus: these things work for grown ups too.

Running Your Family Like a Business and Getting on Top of Life

042: Running Your Family Like a Business and Getting on Top of Life

Thursday, April 21, 2016 – 1 hour, 1 minutes

Running a business and running a family have similarities. Both have a lot of moving parts, can require you to wear several different hats, and can be simultaneously exciting and frustrating. Unfortunately, you can’t fire family members.

Keeping a household in order can be very challenging and overwhelming at times. It can feel like you’re taking on water and working desperately to scoop buckets of ocean out of your boat.

In this episode, we want to talk about borrowing ideas from business that can help patch the holes in your boat and get your family sailing smoothly.

Making Time for Exercise When Raising Kids

041: Making Time for Exercise When Raising Kids

Thursday, April 14, 2016 – 54 minutes

Exercise is a major component of taking care of yourself. It influences our energy level, ability to focus, quality of sleep, and most importantly, our long term ability to be up to the challenge of the work and circumstances life has in store for us.

Many of us, especially parents, have difficulty making time or, at worst, feeling like we can justify the time we spend on exercise.

In this episode we will make a quick and simple case for exercise and share some ideas for making exercise a part of your daily experience, even while the kids are around.


040: Better Sleep Starts the Day Before

Thursday, April 7, 2016 – 1 hour, 8 minutes

Whether you yourself, or your child struggles with getting a good night’s sleep, you know how difficult poor sleep can make every other area of your life. When Rachel and I were getting ready to welcome our first child into the world, we did some research and learned what we could about babies and sleep.

We have been very fortunate to have good sleepers, but the first six weeks were always a struggle, so we are very aware of how lack of sleep can kill your productivity, diminish your health, and make you feel a little crazy.

We have come to learn that good sleep is a cornerstone to health in every other area of our lives, but it also has a symbiotic relationship with other practices and disciplines. In this episode we’ll share things you can do during your day that will lead to better sleep at night.

How Much Is Your Time Really Worth?

039: How Much Is Your Time Really Worth?

Thursday, March 31, 2016 – 54 minutes

When it comes to making more time for the things we love, it often comes down to how much our time is worth. If we’re able to make more money in a given amount of time, we can spend less time working to cover our bills, be more selective about the things we choose to do with our time, and, essentially, have more freedom. But how do we measure the value of our time? How do you determine how much your time is really worth?

Today we are going to dive into this question and talk about it from several different angles. Is the value of your time simply monetary? Is it intangible? Is it found in the things you don’t have time for? Is it immeasurable?

Our goal with this episode is to get people thinking differently about their time and to help them understand how truly valuable it is.

Unlocking the Power of Focused Productivity at Home

038: Unlocking the Power of Focused Productivity at Home

Thursday, March 24, 2016 – 1 hour, 3 minutes

Focus is one of the most valuable assets when it comes to making meaningful progress on your work. When your focus is challenged, it can cost you a lot of time due to the fact that you’re simply not able to work as efficiently.

People who understand the power of focus go to great lengths to ensure their focus is protected by making sure their work environment is as distraction free as possible. But what about when you work from home where distractions abound?

In this episode we’re going to talk about some best practices for finding focus and some strategies you can use to combat distractions at home so you can do your best work.

What to Do When Your Big Goal Scares You

037: What to Do When Your Big Goal Scares You

Thursday, March 10, 2016 – 1 hour, 10 minutes

Have you ever set a big goal for yourself that you secretly thought was ridiculous? I have. I’ve had a goal so big that when I would try to think about it or come up with a strategy, I would experience crippling anxiety.

I’m a pretty confident person and I know that I’m capable of reaching big goals, but for some reason I was experiencing fear. As I pondered why this was, I stumbled upon some great insights for myself and started to feel more equipped to fight and overcome the fears that come between me and my goals.

In this episode we’re talking about the possible roots of our anxiety when it comes to pursuing big goals, and some truths that can help us see our fears in a new light.

Getting the Help You Need Around the House

036: Getting the Help You Need Around the House

Thursday, March 3, 2016 – 1 hour, 8 minutes

When I think about the main categories into which our lives are broken up, I generally think in terms of work, relationships, and self care. The health of each of the categories depends on the health of the others.

In the “work” category, I include things you would expect like a day-job, building your own business, artistic pursuits, and such. This category also includes things like getting groceries, cleaning the house, and getting the kids ready for school.

As your family grows and with it your responsibilities, the work can start to become all consuming at the expense of your relationships and personal well being.

In this episode we will talk about the importance of asking for the help you need, where you can get it, and how you can build a solid support system that will serve your work in the long term.

Pursuing Your Dream in Seasons

035: Pursuing Your Dream in Seasons

Thursday, February 25, 2016 – 51 minutes

We know life comes in seasons, so it’s not surprising when the dream we’re chasing suddenly seems like it either doesn’t fit with the season we’re in, or looks different from what we expected. Still, it can cause us to feel discouraged enough to give up or desperate enough to fight against this natural flow in our lives.

In this more conversational episode, we get into our personal stories and experiences of how passing seasons have shifted and changed the pursuit of our dreams. We talk about how to protect your dream by letting your journey toward your dream match the season you’re in. We talk about how connecting to the deeper “why” can bring you fulfillment and purpose while the embers of your dream are glowing.

Scheduling Techniques to Free Up Your Time

034: Scheduling Techniques to Free Up Your Time

Thursday, February 11, 2016 – 1 hour, 2 minutes

With a busy home life and seemingly never ending work to be done, it can sometimes feel like our schedule is running us instead of us running our schedule. It can also be discouraging, when we are trying to find time to pursue our dreams, to look at our calendar and see a packed schedule.

In this episode we are going to talk about some things we can do to make our time more efficient and to create time for pursuing our passion.

Saying No to Things That Don't Serve Your Goals

033: Saying No to Things That Don’t Serve Your Goals

Thursday, February 4, 2016 – 1 hour, 11 minutes

This year, I made some really ambitious goals. One of the most difficult parts of the process was trying to determine which habits, routines, and activities served my goals, and which ones didn’t. Sometimes knowing what to say no to is very obvious, but difficult to do. Sometimes the things we need to say no to are not that obvious.

The first month of the year is over and, if you’re like me and set some goals at the beginning of the year, you may already be experiencing the pull back into old routines. When your goal is something you’ve never experienced before, it can be especially difficult not to justify going back to what is familiar.

In this episode we want to talk about the goals we set, how to protect them, how to determine what we should be saying no to, and how to make meaningful changes in our habits and routines.

Get Your Family on Board With Your Dreams

032: How to Get Your Family On Board With Your Dreams

Thursday, January 21, 2016 – 48 minutes

It is exponentially more difficult, nearly impossible even, when you feel you don’t have the support of your family. Sometimes that lack of support is explicit, while other times we worry they wouldn’t understand and in our fear end up creeping into a cycle of guilt and frustration about making time to pursue our dream.

In this episode, we talk about some practical ways you can communicate your desire to pursue your dreams in a way that will help your family be on the same page with you and supportive of your dreams.


031: How Important is My Child’s School Career?

Thursday, January 14, 2016 – 58 minutes

One of my good friends has 7 kids and is a little further down the road than we are (his oldest are twin boys in high school) and I see him post pretty regularly about how crazy the homework is these days. I remember being a little stressed out about homework and other school activities, but it seems like today’s students are expected to take on more and more.

When I walk down the halls of my boys’ elementary school, I see posters for academic achievement initiatives, banners encouraging kids to prepare for college, and, during testing week, fliers and posters encouraging students to focus and perform well on their state mandated tests.

When I think of my child’s future and the things I want for them, I have to ask myself, “What role does having a successful school career play in their future success and happiness?”

In today’s episode we will be talking about the role of school, the pros and cons of focusing on one’s school career, and the value of being a life long learner.

Supporting Our Child's Pursuits Doesn't Have to Mean Jam Packing Our Lives

030: Managing Your Child’s Interests Without Overloading Your Schedule

Thursday, December 24, 2015 – 57 minutes

Many parents fear that if they don’t get their kids involved in many activities at a young age, they won’t have an opportunity to excel at whatever they choose in the future. This leads to overloaded schedules, stressed out parents, and burned out kids.

In today’s episode Ben and Rachel talk about a healthy approach to managing our child’s interests and balancing that with our schedules. Our goal is to discover how we can be supportive of our child’s pursuits without jam packing our lives.

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