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Many of the conversations I have with creative professionals or people wanting to get started in business in some sort of creative industry usually come around to this question: “what’s holding you back?”
For most people, I’ve found that the biggest obstacle is putting themselves and there out there for the whole world to see and critique.
Sure, the possibility of success is there, but so is the possibility of rejection from the people you’re wanting to help the most.
The fear of rejection can be incredibly powerful. The idea that you might put an incredible amount of work and passion and time into something just for people to reject it can be absolutely crippling.
Why would anyone purposefully put themselves into a situation where the things they create could be mocked or put down by others?
What if you spend weeks, months, or years pouring your heart into a project or business only to have it met with poor reviews, negativity, or bad press?
The answer is: you might, and that’s okay because the solution is to plan for it. If you plan for the worst, you’re ready for when it comes.
This is a topic really close to my heart, and I want to encourage you. On today’s episode I’ll be talking about how to deal with negativity, poor reviews, bad press, and a general feeling that you’re just not good enough.
Highlights, Takeaways, Quick Wins
- Whenever you do something important in the world, remember that you will inevitably face negativity.
- Make a plan to prepare for negativity. Think about it and be ready.
- The fear of failure and rejection is not something you are alone in. Many, if not most people doing anything feel this fear at some point.
- You are not the sum of other people’s opinions.
- When you do things that matter, people are going to dislike you, but you need to do the things that matter because they still matter.
- You need to get people in your corner right now. You need community, people who can encourage you and help you on your journey.
- We are often so closely connected to what we do and make, and it is easy to take criticism personally.
- Make an “Encouragement” folder in your email inbox or on your computer that you can refer to when you’re feeling discouraged.
- Restrict the times you check channels where negative feedback could come in, and have specific scheduled time to look at those channels.
- Stay humble. Humility is key because when you are humble it gives you the ability to see truth, even within criticism.
- There is a difference between helpful criticism and just plain negativity.
- People who thrive on negativity are not worth your time.
- Acknowledge helpful feedback and let your true fans and audience members know you are listening and want to help them.
- You cannot control what other people think or say about you. You can only control yourself, your response, and your reaction.
- Always strive to improve your product, service, and results.