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From a young age, we seek love, acceptance, and approval from our parents. This deep-seated conditioning extends to many other areas of life as we get older, but it’s not always a good thing.

Your need for approval creates anxiety.

Ever find yourself compulsively checking social media notifications?

Approval addiction negatively affects your performance. It keeps you from focusing on the right things and making meaningful progress.

How do you stop worrying about what other people think?

Highlights, Takeaways, & Quick Wins:
  • On seeking approval from your heroes: The people you look up to have already given you something—inspiration and motivation to start, commit, and persist. Their job is to inspire, not to validate each person they inspire.
  • Approval addiction disconnects you from the people you should be focusing on—your audience.
  • Apply the advice of the people you look up to and show them the positive results. Nothing will make them happier and you’ll have an immediate connection with them.
  • Focusing on approval takes away from your focus on doing your best work and serving your people well.
  • When you don’t know who you are, you look for validation from others.
  • If you’re emotionally invested in the approval others have of you, then you’ll also be emotionally invested in their disapproval.
  • A message from someone is worth a hundred times what any social media likes are worth.