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Do you question yourself a lot? Do you wonder why you don’t have things figured out? Why aren’t you more confident?

These thoughts can run rampant through your mind and repeat themselves over and over.

How you think and feel about yourself affects how you act. How you act determines a lot—including how successful you are in life.

We know successful people are confident, but that can make it feel like a “chicken and egg” problem. That’s great for successful people, you say, but what if I’m not already confident? How can I become more confident?

We all have areas of our lives where we feel confident. We also all have areas of our lives where we lack self-confidence. This is natural, for we can’t have all experiences.

  • You may be good at drawing but not at cooking.
  • You may be good at cooking, but not at writing.
  • You may be good at writing, but not at rock climbing.

This is okay! But how do we manage the way we think about ourselves, and what we say, in areas where we have no experience? How do we feel about that? How can we intentionally develop and increase our self confidence in areas where we lack?

Highlights, Takeaways, & Quick Wins:
  • When you admit you don’t know something you put yourself in a position to learn and learning is the foundation of building confidence.
  • If there’s an area of your life where you haven’t built confidence, it doesn’t mean you’re not a confident person.
  • Don’t fear moving in the wrong direction — more action equals more progress.
  • First, stop speaking negatively about yourself, then work on actively speaking positively about yourself.
  • You are not what you do, and you are not the results of what you do.
  • Evaluate whose standards you’re trying to live up to.
  • Identify the source of the messages that play in your head.
  • Believe in your potential and seek out people who are going to tell you the truth, not just what you want to hear.
  • Drown out negative language with positive language in your own voice.
  • If you’re quick to judge other people, you’re quick to judge yourself.
  • What you think influences what you say, and what you say influences what you think.
  • Writing helps you see the thoughts you think about yourself.
  • Confidence comes from experience. Experience comes from doing. Doing comes from courage.
  • Authentic confidence comes from the hard-earned practice of showing up and facing things you were once afraid of.
  • Teach what you know. Don’t teach what you don’t know.