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You’re not alone in feeling overwhelmed.
You want to work on your goals, you want to make progress, but everything just ends up feeling like “more”, and you can’t do MORE right now.
You’re at capacity and you’ve reached your limits. There’s simply no more time for anything whatsoever. Every moment is accounted for, and it’s not like you can just get rid of things: everything seems immovable.
Responsibilities, tasks, and demands pile up. So many things rely upon you and you alone. You have to be there. You have to show up.
There’s no time for “more”. It doesn’t matter how nice it would be to pursue something new—you simply can’t add anything to your plate. The frustrating thing is the same goals for your goals. Your goals and ambitions have to take a back seat, because you’re simply surviving right now. You’re just trying to get by from day to day.
To say nothing of your energy! Rather, your lack of energy.
There’s simply not a single drop of energy left by the time you reach the end of your day. If you’re lucky, you’ll collapse on the couch, or in bed, and catch a few minutes of a TV show or social media just to unwind. You need that time. That’s your decompress time. Life is too crazy not to have it. You’ve got to get those few minutes of escape before your head hits the pillow and you wake up and do it all over again.
How does it sound like I’m reading your mind? Because I’ve been there. I’m not mind reader. I’ve just been exactly where you are right now.
I have very good news: it doesn’t have to stay that way. There is hope. There is a future for you where life isn’t like this—and that isn’t a future you have to wait for. No, it doesn’t come after things at work die down, it doesn’t come after the kids move out, it doesn’t come when you “have more time”. It’s here, right now, for the taking, and you can have it.
Getting this new reality will take some major changes. You will have to make adjustments. This is a process—it’s not something that happens overnight. But change is possible and life can get better.
Highlights, Takeaways, & Quick Wins:
- First of all, you're not alone in feeling overwhelmed.
- You'll never "find" time because we fill time automatically by habit. You can only ever make time.
- Your only tool for creating time is saying "no". "Yes" fills time. "No" makes times.
- Where does all of the time go? Your time is gobbled up by commitments.
- If you don’t take a step back, you can find yourself in a place where you’re fulfilling commitments that don’t take you where you want to go.
- It’s ok for your commitments to change. The commitments you make should always be in service of your goals.
- The right time to break a commitment is when your goals have changed.
- The first step to reclaiming your time is to acknowledge your control over your time.
- You have time. 24 hours a day to be exact. You simply give it away.
- One of the first things you may be tempted to do when you hear this is make excuses. When you’re called out on having time but giving it away, you will want to point to things you don’t control as reason for why you’re blameless. This is dishonest.
- Look for the things within your control you choose to do that you know waste your time. You will find those things with honest reflection. Those are areas where you can reclaim your time.
- You don’t lack time, you lack clarity in what you want and have time commitments that reflect your lack of clarity.
- Without clear priorities, your time will disappear, and you won’t know why.
- Write down what you accomplish each day. Not only does it feel great, but it also provides a record of what you accomplished.
- If you feel like you didn't do enough today, you almost certainly don't actually know what you accomplished.