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Something I learned this year is that commitments aren’t always set in stone. That sounds weird at first because when we think of commitments, we think of a sense of permanence—a sense of lasting.
When you commit to something, you’re going to stick to it. It’s good to commit to things. We all want to be people of our word. We want to be people who keep commitments.
That’s something we want other people to think of us, but where you can run into trouble is thinking that commitments are forever.
It’s good to set expectations, but not all expectations should last until we die.
Maybe you’ve committed to blogging weekly, sending your newsletter twice a week, or doing a daily video show. Whatever it is, you committed to it and you set those expectations, and if you’re not careful, you can find yourself stuck in old commitments.
These commitments were made in a different time and a different context. They were made with different goals.
Right now you may have different goals, but you may still be stuck in commitments that are taking you in a direction you don’t want to go.
If we don’t take a step back, we can find ourselves in a place where we’re fulfilling commitments that don’t take us where we want to go.
We can find ourselves fulfilling commitments that are not in service of our goals, which means we’re going to end up somewhere that we don’t want to be.
I needed to be reminded of this and maybe you do too: it’s ok for commitments to change.
You’re not a liar if you don’t do something for the rest of your life. You’re not a liar if you don’t stick to this commitment until the day that you die.
It’s ok for commitments to change, but the main thing is when they do change, you want to set those expectations. Set the expectation of change and then you’re always able to fulfill that.
Come back to your goals: what do you want to accomplish? Where do you want to be?
The commitments you made should always be in service of your goals, so check yourself regularly for that alignment and if your goals change, the commitments should change too.